When someone becomes all good or all bad
One minute they're everything. The next, they're someone you need distance from. If you've experienced splitting, either as the person doing it or the person on the receiving end, you know how disorienting the shift can feel, and how convincing each side seems while it's happening.
Growing up as the adult in the room.
You learned to read a room before you learned to read a book, quiet when things got tense, quick to fix what was falling apart, praised for being easy and mature. What that often meant, underneath, was that you were managing someone else's emotions instead of having your own.
Insight can't rebuild what it didn't build.
You can understand your patterns completely and still find yourself living inside them. Here's why insight stops short of real change, and what actually rebuilds the self.
It isn't object permanence (but you're not wrong that something is missing).
Many people with BPD find the "emotional object permanence" explanation and feel seen by it, but it doesn't quite fit. Here's what's actually happening, and why it matters for healing.
Beyond DBT: What Good Psychiatric Management Gets Right About BPD
DBT dominates the conversation around BPD treatment, but the research tells a more complicated story. Here's what Good Psychiatric Management gets right, and why treatment pluralism matters.